Dad dating after mom died

Apr 18, My beloved mother died two years ago from cancer. Knowing that he would probably date or even remarry eventually, I enjoyed A couple of months before I met “the lady friend,” I was with some friends, who inquired after my father. I am thankful for my dad's run-of-the-mill widow-meets-widower story.
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But this all feels so abrupt, and I am just not ready for it. My dad has been my rock through all of this, and to have him being the reason that I am crying -- it is just really really hard. I obviously want him to be happy, it just feels so early.

need advice — hard time dealing with dad dating someone right after my mom died

It doesn't help that I'm not sure how much I like this woman, and if they were to get serious, it adds this wild card into the already struggling family dynamic. Like imaging some other woman at our holidays, family vacations Has anyone dealt with anything like this, or does anyone have any tips? I understand he must be lonely, etc. I have not stopped crying since I found out - I haven't cried this hard over my mom in months. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites. Dear fletch14, I'm sorry to hear what you're going through, that is very very tough, especially the comment that your dad thinks he connects better with her than your mom!

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After Mom’s Death, Daughter Struggles With Dad’s Girlfriend

So many of you have stories that resound with what is going on in my life right now. Her death came as a major shock to us. She was an active, vibrant 72 year old woman who had lots of plans for the future. She and my dad were married for over 54 years and had the picture of a beautiful, loving marriage, one that any couple would aspire to have. When my mom died, my biggest sadness was not for myself, but for my dad. I wondered how he would ever be able to cope without my mom. They were true soulmates. He read to her every night until she fell asleep.

She always fixed his plate. They served each other in love. I was out of town on business. I called my dad to check up on him. He told me he was upset because my younger sister had hung up on him. He made it clear that he had already made a commitment and promise to marry this woman somewhere down the road.

We have been trying to talk to him. He said this woman is the only light at the end of a dark tunnel. I am just mad at him, I guess.

The person who talked about teenage behavior is right. He has been seeing this woman. This woman is playing him, I feel sure. She is playing games, encouraging him and then telling him not to call her any more. Then she calls him back saying she just needs to hear his voice. He says that she is acting this way because she has been hurt by other men.

My sisters and I say that she is acting this way because she is manipulative and plotting. I have told him how I feel, and that is all I can do. My dad broke up with this woman. Thank God he finally saw through her manipulation before it was too late.

My advice to anyone going through something like this is to not alienate yourself from your parent by shaming them or speaking ill of the person they are seeing. It will do no good. Listen to them, support them, be there for them as much as they will let you, and pray, pray, pray. He will now have to go through it. My sisters and I will be there to support him and love him through it. And perhaps, someday, he will meet a woman who shares his values and can make a life with him.

I opened my huge mouth too quickly. I should have known. It is all I can do to keep from having a blow-up with this woman. I have never spoken to her or met her. Well, that is not exactly true. She has told him he has a dirty mind. She gets mad at him on every account. She says he is trying to turn her into my mom. So he breaks up with her. My dad officially proposed and she accepted. They will be getting married September My mother passed away from cancer in It was completely understandable. He claims he wants to do what he wants before he dies. I lost my husband last year.

I was married for 24 years, had a familly and it began to grow. And you children may not understand what we go thru.

All I can say is that there are many reasons why we want to date and go on with our life. My children were not happy that I told them I was dating, they were hurt and angry.

Mom’s death, father’s new girlfriends too much for family

Yes it is about my happiness but my family does come first. I was not looking for this it just happened. He is someone from my past and I enjoy his company very much and I love spending time with him. He is not here to replace their father nor is he to replace him as my husband. He is someone I enjoy spending time with and someone to hang out with. He makes me smile again!

It felt so good to get on this website and read that so many other people are experience the same things that I am. I lost my mom on March 24, after her very hard fought battle with colon cancer. My mom and dad were married for 30 years. He was her caretaker and he held her hand to the very end. All I have known for 26 years of my life is the love between my mother and my father.

After her death my husband and I continued to live with my dad to keep him company and ease the loneliness. We became extremely close with my father and spent countless nights in the living room together playing games.

Grief Healing: In Grief: Is Dad Dating Too Soon after Mom’s Death?

Now, almost 2 years later he has begun dating a woman fairly seriously. So living here with him has made it very hard on me. Regardless of all my feelings though, a daughter cannot fill all the emptiness that is felt. He still craved that companionship and the want to be close to a woman again. As much as I understand all this, I still find it so incredibly difficult to accept him dating. And the awkwardness of discussing my mom in front of her is almost unbearable but it is inevitable that my mom is going to come up because my daughter WILL know who her grandmother was.

But he has for the most part been very respectful for my feelings so I have returned the favor.